two nights ago i had to deal with blatant sexism. i hadn't dealt with such an obvious put-down in so long. i didn't remember how to handle it. i forgot how to put guys in their place:
omar asked me to pour wine for his table. as i was opening the bottle, nick signals to also pour water for the same table. the conversation i then have with the table goes something like this:
me: wow. these guys got me doing everything for you two.
two guy customers: yeah. well you do it better.
me: i guess. but this is ridiculous. wine and water. these boys are lazy.
two guy customers: well women are better at multitasking
me: exactly! tell your server that. exactly that. in those exact words.
two guy customers: that's why men are at the top. because they focus on one single thing at a time and get it done. women are too busy multi-tasking so they get sidetracked and end up doing menial tasks.
me: [awkward laugh]
what the hell? really? why should i have to put up with such absurd statements from ignorant men? i was so taken aback that they would say such things to me. these guys don't know me. don't know i'm educated. don't know my background. who i am or what potential i have. who are they to say such discouraging things? all i could do was laugh. at them. not with them, of course. and it was a sincere laugh. sincere, because i didn't know how else to react. my laugh was one of shock and utter disbelief. the kind of "oh my god i can't believe you just said that and are truly that stupid" type laugh.
boys are silly. women actually rule the world. but those guys and i guess guys in general can choose to think otherwise ... arguing would just be a waste of time and energy.
now that i'm working weekends more in the meatpacking district i have to be on guard for douche bags and dbag statements. i'm prepared ...